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One of my goals for this year is to read more Personal Development and Self Empowerment books. In the past I have experienced major breakthroughs from applying personal development strategies to different areas of my life. I have chosen a word to represent my 2014 – that word is “possibility.” I told my good friend and colleague and she immediately suggested that I read the book “The Art of Possibility’ by Rosamund and Benjamin Zander. I am only 70 pages in and already I have been absolutely blown away and enlightened with what I’ve read. I wanted to share with you this passage from the book that really resonated with me. Sometimes in life we feel like we are being taken off course from our destination – we need to remain open to the possibility that we are heading to exactly where we need to be.
“Four young men sit by the bedside of their dying father. The old man, with his last breath, tells them there is a huge treasure buried in the family fields. The sons crowd around him crying, “Where, where?” but it is too late. The day after the funeral and for many days to come, the young men go out with their picks and shovels and turn the soil, digging deeply into the ground from one end of each field to the other. They find nothing and, bitterly disappointed, abandon the search. The next season the farm has its best harvest ever.” – Benjamin Zander, from “The Art of Possbility”
I encourage you to pick up a copy of this book. I have thoroughly enjoyed the content thus far!
In the Success Education/Personal Development curriculum I use daily, the current exercise I am working on in centred around fear. The exercise asks that you list your top fears then develop an action plan detailing how you will take on your fears and ultimately overcome them. This is a super-confronting exercise for me as I often hide behind my fears and use them as excuses for not doing something. I have decided to complete the exercise before the end of the year!
My three top fears include – 1) mice (yes, they are small but fierce!) 2) drowning (even though I am an avid scuba diver I have never really felt all that comfortable in the water) 3) walking alone at night (too many murder/rape stories). So there it is. I find it rather confronting even to list them out publicly. The fact that I am announcing not only my fears but my planned decision to confront them holds me rather accountable!
Here is my proposed plan of action to conquer my fears. 1) Mice- My best friend Chelsey had a pet rat growing up (yuck!). I have asked her to accompany me to our local pet store to hold mice/rats to overcome my fear. She will be there not only for moral support but also for the safety of the animals in case I decide to drop one! 2) Drowning- My mom and I are enrolling in swimming lessons at our local pool. I feel that in gaining confidence in the water and improving my skills the fear of drowning will dissipate. 3) Walking alone at night – This one will need to be confronted head on. I will walk alone at night around our neighbourhood. I will wear bright colours, bring my cell phone and tell my husband my route so that he can expect me home at a certain time.
I cannot tell you how nervous and excited I am to confront these fears. There have been so many situations in recent years where I felt that these fears were holding me back tremendously. Wish me luck!
Take a look around you at your current results throughout the different areas in your life : health, relationships, finance, spiritual. Are you satisfied with the results? Look back on your past actions, did they reflect your goals? If you are unsatisfied with your weight, did you eat unhealthy foods in the past to contribute to your current state? The answer is yes. Just as your past actions contribute to your current state, your current actions are creating your future state and results.
This can often be a hard pill to swallow – knowing that what we are doing today is ultimately creating the future we will experience tomorrow and on wards. This can also be a very empowering realization. You are the only person that can mold your future. Your actions today have a direct correlation with the future you experience moving forward. It is common for us to say “I’ll start that diet tomorrow…” or “Once the New Year rolls around I’ll get a gym membership…” Do not subscribe to this way of thinking. If you are looking to achieve better results in any area of your life, the key is to get started now. Start taking the action to move you towards the goal today, not tomorrow. You are simply prolonging the reward by holding off the appropriate actions.
The first is to write down a list of your goals across the different areas in your life. From there, identify actions that you can be taking TODAY to bring you closer to your goal. The sooner you take the actions the sooner you will realize your goals.
For the last couple of weeks I have been taking an hour long walk in the mornings; mostly for the exercise, but also to clear my mind and take some time out to visualize my goals. I have been taking the same route most days so yesterday I decided to approach the route from the other direction. Such a simple, but interesting concept came to light for me. As I was passing different houses, parked cars and streets I found that my thoughts led me in a new direction. I began to see things differently in my mind just as I was seeing things differently in my reality on the walk.
I began to think about all of the activities that I engage in the same way day in and day out. How could I benefit from approaching them in a different way? Would I also begin to see things differently and possibly gain a new perspective? I think as humans living in a fast-paced digital world we become used to the routine and mundane tasks that we engage in each day. Changing the way we experience these tasks could give us more than just a little excitement, perhaps it could even offer us a change in perspective and an opportunity we haven’t been open to before.
I challenge you to switch up your morning commute to work, change the order of your morning routine, change your dinner time, say yes to something you might normally say no to. Any of these little changes could dramatically impact your life in a positive way. If we want change to occur, then we must also change.
“Don’t just let your business or your job make something for you; let it make something of you.” – Jim Rohn
I read this quote this morning by the amazing Jim Rohn. I often quote or reference Jim Rohn in my blog entries. He has certainly been a massive influence on my personal development and business success journey. Rohn was a big believer that “You should work harder on yourself than you do on your job.” This is so true and often what separates the wealthy from the masses. We are told to learn something new everyday, but how often do we put it into practice?
The quote that I plucked out today reminds of the reasons why I set out to become an entrepreneur. Entrepreneurship can be the most challenging experience a person will face. It is met with adversity, scepticism, fear and mostly doubt. Many people around you will make you feel like you are unworthy or incapable of creating the success you are out to create. Most of whom go out to start their own business will fail. They fail because they give up. The journey and the obstacles were too hard to overcome and they gave into the monkey chatter from the people around them who were convinced to see them fail.
Being an entrepreneur has many advantages. The most rewarding advantage to date for me has been the challenges along the way. The end goal is no doubt exciting, but it is the little lessons that we learn along the way that are truly the reward. Rohn says to ensure that your job or business make something of you…well I think if you are an entrepreneur then this is certainly the case. Embrace all of the adversity and challenges that come your way – they are, after all, there to see you grow and improve on your journey.
I am often reminded during my yoga practice to be present in my body. We are encouraged to be present in the moment and listen to our bodies. I consider my yoga practice to be an hour and a half long moving meditation as I focus on being present in the moment and in my body.
My Jim Rohn weekly newsletter came to my inbox last week with the reminder to be present. He said “Wherever you are, be there.” This applies to yoga, work, time spent with loved ones, etc. Wherever you find yourself in a particular moment, challenge yourself to stay in that moment and do not let your mind wander to other things, tasks or “to-dos” that you need to get done. If you allocate your time effectively and balance it between work and play, you will not find the need to stray from the moment.
I work very hard on this and am still working on its mastery. Due to the fact that I am self-employed, I often find my mind wandering from the present and thinking about my business, a phone call I need to return or an email I need to write. It is bad practice as I am not giving my current circumstance my full and undivided attention. Instead of fulling enjoying the moment, I divide my attention in 10 different directions, never really accomplishing anything.
Jim also said, “Give whatever you are doing and whoever you are with the gift of attention. On the way to work, concentrate on the way – not the work. Pay attention. Don’t just stagger through the day.”
I challenge you to take this on board over the next week. In what areas of your life can you become more present. Think of the people and the situations that have been suffering due to your lack of attention. Take on the challenge and measure your results.
I have just come off of a great personal development training call that was addressing the power of now. The future is now. Every moment of everyday we have the opportunity to shape our future, change the outcome. How often would we rather put something off until tomorrow? Putting things off until tomorrow is only delay the gratification of our results even more. Why not do it today and bring the result even closer? This is HUGE! Procrastination has been such a massive stopper for me in my life. I have always given myself permission to put things off until later, tomorrow, next week, NEVER!
Procrastination doesn’t only delay gratification and achievement, it also reinforces to our subconscious our inability to follow through. Just as we would lose faith in a friend that lets us down continuously, we also lose faith in ourselves. Why not follow through and show yourself that you are capable of getting the job done and achieving the end result? It is really that simple, do it now….or do it later. It’s up to you. When would you like to succeed? Today or tomorrow?
I subscribe to weekly newsletters from the late Jim Rohn. Mr Rohn provided (and still does) an amazing service to all of his readers and followers with his respect to his ideologies and his journey to success. In his latest newsletter, Jim Rohn talks about how we can face the enemies that lay within us to allow for more growth and success in our lives. He labels them as fear, indecision, doubt, worry, and over-caution. Here is what Jim has to say about these enemies that live within us:
Facing the Enemies Within
by Jim Rohn
We are not born with courage, but neither are we born with fear. Maybe some of our fears are brought on by your own experiences, by what someone has told you, by what you’ve read in the papers. Some fears are valid, like walking alone in a bad part of town at two o’clock in the morning. But once you learn to avoid that situation, you won’t need to live in fear of it.
Fears, even the most basic ones, can totally destroy our ambitions. Fear can destroy fortunes. Fear can destroy relationships. Fear, if left unchecked, can destroy our lives. Fear is one of the many enemies lurking inside us.
Let me tell you about five of the other enemies we face from within. The first enemy that you’ve got to destroy before it destroys you is indifference. What a tragic disease this is. “Ho-hum, let it slide. I’ll just drift along.” Here’s one problem with drifting: you can’t drift your way to the top of the mountain.
The second enemy we face is indecision. Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise. It will steal your chances for a better future. Take a sword to this enemy.
The third enemy inside is doubt. Sure, there’s room for healthy skepticism. You can’t believe everything. But you also can’t let doubt take over. Many people doubt the past, doubt the future, doubt each other, doubt the government, doubt the possibilities and doubt the opportunities. Worst of all, they doubt themselves. I’m telling you, doubt will destroy your life and your chances of success. It will empty both your bank account and your heart. Doubt is an enemy. Go after it. Get rid of it.
The fourth enemy within is worry. We’ve all got to worry some. Just don’t let it conquer you. Instead, let it alarm you. Worry can be useful. If you step off the curb in New York City and a taxi is coming, you’ve got to worry. But you can’t let worry loose like a mad dog that drives you into a small corner. Here’s what you’ve got to do with your worries: drive them into a small corner. Whatever is out to get you, you’ve got to get it. Whatever is pushing on you, you’ve got to push back.
The fifth interior enemy is over-caution. It is the timid approach to life. Timidity is not a virtue; it’s an illness. If you let it go, it’ll conquer you. Timid people don’t get promoted. They don’t advance and grow and become powerful in the marketplace. You’ve got to avoid over-caution.
Do battle with the enemy. Do battle with your fears. Build your courage to fight what’s holding you back, what’s keeping you from your goals and dreams. Be courageous in your life and in your pursuit of the things you want and the person you want to become.